Beginning a new relationship with a man who has lost his wife might seem overwhelming, as it can present a fresh set of dating challenges and questions of proper etiquette.
However, as with any relationship, patience and kindness are often the answers to overcoming many of the hurdles, such as upset children and unresolved grief, that come with dating a widower.
He is a lovely man...kind, generous, thoughtful, and I love him dearly.
How can I gently communicate more with him about this?
Pictures of his dead wife are not adorning his nightstand and his home does not resemble Miss Havisham‘s ballroom.
He doesn’t cower under the weight of disapproval from children, in-laws or friends.
These brave souls seem to share one issue in common: struggling to overcome the “fits and starts” initiated by their previously widowed boyfriends who emotionally withdraw from the relationship when grief is triggered.
Insights From One Woman’s Journey As The Wife Of A Widower” primarily addresses women married to widowers, I do occasionally receive e-mails from women who are in serious committed premarital relationships with widowers as well.
And even if he has moments where the past intersects with the present, chances are quite good that he will never let you know it. He’ll have told you so in a thousand different ways consistently and happily.
And he will have taken steps – in the words of Captain Picard – to “make it so”.
If you are interested in establishing a romantic relationship with a man who has lost his wife, you will need to give him time and space to come to terms with his emotions.